Thursday, 3 February 2011

Rest peacefully dearest Mum

I haven't been able, or wanted, to post on the blog for a while. My mum was taken ill just before Olympia and was taken from her nursing home into Kent & Sussex hospital with double pneumonia.

It became clear that she was unlikely to recover and so with the help of our local GP we managed to get her transferred to our cottage hospital just over the road from me. It's a wonderful place and we were very happy to have her so close by. My step-father, Ed, has been in the same hospital for some weeks and so it was good that he was able to see Mum whenever he wanted. We were able to visit as much as we liked and my brother Dan, sister Sally and her two children, Kelly & Sam, spent as much time as possible with her talking, singing songs and making sure she was comfortable. It is time we will always cherish and are very grateful for.

As we feared she didn't recover and my lovely mum passed away on Saturday 15th January. Even though she had been in the nursing home for almost four years and we knew she couldn't withstand another chest problem it was and is a heartbreaking and shocking time. I thought I was prepared but I wasn't.

She was a fantastic mum and a great person; we will always be very proud of her and of the work she did for Oxfam. We got a lovely letter from head office after mum had passed away saying what an inspiration she had been and how she had touched the hearts of all the people she worked with during the 20+ years that she managed the local Oxfam shop. Oxfam was always the cause dearest to her heart.

Throughout her life she was fiercely proud of her Irish and Roman Catholic roots. She was a regular member of the congregation of St. Lawrence’s RC church for many years and it was of great comfort to us all having a service in celebration of her life at the church where we all attended mass every Sunday.

I can't believe she has gone and I miss her very much but I know for certain that she is with the angels.

Kathleen Elizabeth Belcher nee O'Farrell
25th March 1933 - 15th January 2011


  1. What a lovely picture Nancy. Your mum was so beautiful, and sounded like a wonderful person indeed. I am so terribly sorry for your loss and have been thinking about you. Take care xx

  2. Thinking of you all Nancy,
    love from us all here at "The Pit"

  3. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time. Remember all the wonderful times you shared. Take care xx

  4. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time x

  5. So sorry to hear your sad news Nancy, thinking of you.
    Ann xx

  6. Nancy - just wanting to send kind wishes and thoughts to you. That is a beautiful picture of her. You look very like her. Take care, Helen xx

  7. So very sorry for your loss....your mum is now pain free xx Hugs xx

  8. Dear Nancy - you had written about your Mum before and she sounded a lovely lady - so sorry you had to say goodbye - remember all the happy times - hugs xxxx

  9. Having lost my dad just two weeks ago, I share your loss and grief. But I am convinced that they are both in a better place, and hope that the sharpness of the pain will dull in time.
    My thoughts are with you.

  10. I was so sorry to hear about your Mum but your tribute here is lovely.
    It's hard at the moment but thinking of the good times helps and things do eventually get easier good friends and happy memories helped me and I'm sure they will you too.

  11. What a lovely tribute and beautiful photo, so sorry hugs xxx